I must say that I am guilty of this, believing that people who are ” a little extra” tend to be too much. I felt that being “extra” implies that you seek attention or purposefully try to make yourself known at whatever cost. From observation, I can see how people tended to avoid individuals because it took too much energy to deal with them. Being labeled as extra doesn’t fit in a society structured on specific rules and guidelines. For so long, I believed in a lie. The lie that tells you, “doing more than what is required is too much.” It’s funny how the world rejects it, but God promotes it. God wants to see us being “a little extra.” To God, being extra is the definition of someone who goes beyond the ordinary call of duty; they do more than what is required.
Doing more than what is required is why Rebekah became Isaac’s wife. Before meeting Isaac, there is little to say about her life, but I can assume that Rebekah was waiting on her spouse. I wouldn’t know if she ever struggled with singleness or how much she prayed for God to send her a spouse. I know that God (in so many words) promised Isaac a wife because through the promise God made with Abraham, it’s only fitted for Isaac to have a wife. Genesis 24: 1-17, it provides insight into the actions it took to find a wife for Isaac:
- Abraham sought his servant to go to his homeland to seek Isaac’s wife (Gen. 24:4).
- Abraham made it clear that he didn’t want Isaac to marry a local Canaanite woman (Gen.24:3).
By faith, the servant went forward with the instructions from Abraham. The miraculous detail that we sometimes miss is evident in the servant. He knew that he was going to need help. The servant sought God for direction by praying and being specific in his prayers. The servant asked God,
- ” O Lord, God of my master, Abraham,” he prayed. “Please give me success today, and show unfailing love to my master; This is my request. I will ask one of them, ‘Please give me a drink from your jug.’ If she says, ‘Yes, have a drink, and I will water your camels, too!’- let her be the one you have selected as Isaac’s wife. This is how I will know that you have shown unfailing love to my master” ( Gen. 24: 12;14).
It’s essential to understand why Abraham’s servant asked God for specifics. The servant was looking for a woman who was a little bit extra. He wanted a woman that went beyond the call of duty and did more than what was required.
I like to assume that God prepared Rebekah for this very moment. There was something about her that made God say, ” Rebekah will be the wife of Issac.” He spoke these things into existence well before either one was born. I’m assuming that the moment God told Abraham that he would have a son was at the same time he was working on Rebekahs’ parents to give birth to a child and raise her to be who she needed to be. God can connect the puzzle pieces before we can see things coming. It’s during those Aha moments that we realize how big God’s promises are. It stretches beyond our understanding. God needed Rebekah to be precisely that person who goes beyond the call of duty because Abrahams’ servant needed to notice her and say, ” She is the one for Isaac.”
Too often, we neglect who we are because we fear rejection and separation. God never created us to fit in but to stand out. Those qualities and skills that this world has tried to silence are the very things that God wants to use. You choosing to try to fit in thinking that it will get you noticed and make you feel accepted is the same thing that is causing you to miss out on your blessing.
Last year, a prophet spoke this very thing to me. He said, “there is a man that is praying for YOU!” there were other things that were said, but for this moment, I need you to understand these words “a man is praying for you.” So many times, I have questioned if I am good enough to be loved. I have hidden so many skills because I thought it was too much for a man to choose me. I have preferred to settle so many times in my past, thinking that I can’t have anything better. I contemplated so many times if I wanted to be a career-driven woman because I was afraid that it would intimidate men, and they would see me as “wanting too much” and “needing too much.”
The night that the prophet spoke those words to me, I realized that I am enough! Someone somewhere is praying and asking God for a wife who possesses the skills and qualities. So, wouldn’t it be selfish of me to settle and not grow or be ashamed of who I am? I AM ENOUGH!! YOU ARE ENOUGH!! You can’t pray and ask God to send you a mate when you have yet to ask God to prepare you for such. Marriage is not to have someone by your side. Marriage is to carry God’s message, and to do that; each one needs to be purposeful in their walk.
Don’t shy away from who are. I encourage you today to embrace every part of who you are. It’s the right combination of perfection and imperfections that makes us, us.