I must say that I am guilty of believing this lie:
- people who are “a little extra” tend to be too much
I felt that being “extra” implied that you seek attention, or you purposefully try to make yourself known at whatever cost. For me, I saw how people were rejected and avoided because they were perceived as “doing the most.”
So what did I do?
I chose to reject and hide anything that resembled “being too much.”
Being labeled as extra doesn’t fit in a society structured on specific rules and guidelines. For so long, I believed in a lie. The lie that tells you, “doing more than what is required is too much.” It’s funny how the world rejects it, but God promotes it. God wants to see us being “a little extra.” To God, being extra is the definition of someone who goes beyond the ordinary call of duty; they do more than what is required.
Doing more than what is required is why Rebekah became Isaac’s wife. Before meeting Isaac, there is little to say about her life, but I can assume that Rebekah was waiting on her spouse. I wouldn’t know if she ever struggled with singleness or how much she prayed for God to send her a spouse. I know that God (in so many words) promised Isaac a wife because through the promise God made with Abraham, it’s only fitted for Isaac to have a wife. In Genesis 24: 1-17, it provides insight into the actions it took to find a wife for Isaac:
- Abraham sought his servant to go to his homeland to seek a wife for Isaac (Gen. 24:4).
- Abraham made it clear that he didn’t want Isaac to marry a local Canaanite women (Gen.24:3).
By faith, the servant went forward with the instructions from Abraham.
The miraculous detail that we sometimes miss is evident in the servant. He knew that he was going to need help. The servant sought God for direction by praying and being specific in his prayers. The servant asked God,
- ” O Lord, God of my master, Abraham,” he prayed. “Please give me success today, and show unfailing love to my master; This is my request. I will ask one of them, ‘Please give me a drink from your jug.’ If she says, ‘Yes, have a drink, and I will water your camels, too!’- let her be the one you have selected as Isaac’s wife. This is how I will know that you have shown unfailing love to my master” ( Gen. 24: 12;14).
It’s essential to understand why Abraham’s servant asked God for specifics. The servant was looking for a woman who was a little bit extra. He wanted a woman that went beyond the call of duty and did more than what was required.
God needed Rebekah to be precisely that person who goes beyond the call of duty because Abrahams’ servant needed to notice her and say, ” She is the one for Isaac.”