One of the things that I love most about weddings is seeing the groom unveil his bride. It’s a moment of transformation that the groom sees his wife for the first time and reveals her to the world. I admire its significance as I find it relatable to the season of singleness. If you are anything like me, It can seem that you are hidden as if a cloak is covering you, and you often wonder why you are not looked upon or why it seems your unapproachable. The honest answer is that you aren’t any of those things, but the Glory of God hides you because not everyone can see the radiance within you.
When you don’t understand the reason or the purpose of being veiled, you can easily misinterpret God’s cloak of protection as rejection. Insecurities can begin to invade your mind and have you believe that you aren’t good enough or, worse, you don’t deserve to be loved. I have stood in this place thinking that love was unattainable, and as a result, I fought emotional battles due to feeling insecure.
This past year, my prayer is, ” God allow me to see myself how you see me.” Why? Because there are so many times in my life where I have focused on the wrong things. I should have been seeing my beauty instead of my flaws. Or, instead of seeing my strengths, I see my weakness. I have gotten to a place where I am tired of being so hard on myself and believing that I am not enough until man sees me as enough.
I know that I am not alone in saying that insecurities have kept me in bondage for too long. When I should have lead with confidence, I chose to operate from fear. It was comforting to be invisible because it was safe. I was always afraid to let people see the real me because of my fear of being rejected. Little did I know rejection is inevitable.
Through my season of waiting, I have realized one thing; we will never escape rejection. It doesn’t matter if you are the most fantastic person on the face of this earth; you will be disliked. Honestly, I am learning not to take offense because they aren’t rejecting you but who God represents in you. Sometimes people can’t receive that version, and I am here to tell you that it is okay!
” And till Moses had done speaking with them, he put a veil on his face; And the Children of Israel saw the face of Moses, that the skin of Moses’ face shone: and Moses put the veil upon his face again, until he went in to speak with Him.“Exodus 34: 33; 35
Not every person you encounter in this life will see or witness the unveiled version of you. God is protecting your radiance and beauty for a reason because what lies within you, no man, can take away. You have been created and molded by God, and He knows what He desires for His children.
Trials and lessons
As part of my testimony, I want to share this moment with you guys about something that recently happened in my life. Not too long ago, I was involved with someone, and it ended with him ghosting me. I can tell you that it was a very unsettling feeling. My old reaction would have been to become enraged and upset with the world, mainly because I would have zeroed in on my perceived flaws. However, something extraordinary and unexpected happened; I chose to sit back and be silent and remain hidden by God. God taught me to do absolutely nothing, and for someone who likes to control outcomes, that was one of the most challenging requests I have had to make.
You see, I had to understand that this man was not the one to unveil me, and I’m not talking marriage per se but understanding that who I am and desires to be was not supposed to be exposed to him.
God had to show me through this process the importance of having certain people in your life. Not everyone is supposed to see what God sees in you. We have to know that we can not continue giving ourselves to everyone so quickly. Not every man who enters your life is “your husband.” It’s the same for men; not every female you seek is supposed to be “your wife.” God allows people in our circle not to unveil us but to reveal things lurking behind the veil.
The lesson that I learned was that I could let go, and because I let go, I felt a release in my spirit. For once in a long time, I no longer felt this constant paralyzing focus on the fact that I want a husband. It felt as if my mind could breathe again. I don’t feel that pressure that meeting my husband has to happen now. I can be spontaneous and go on trips or spend time in my garden and choose to be the person I want to be. It’s crazy that I am finally at a place to realize I can be myself and like who I am.
Having people removed from your life doesn’t mean you are at your end, but it’s the push that God needed to move you to the place and season He desires for you.
God orchestrates marriage, and He is the Author and finisher of our faith, and you best believe that God will not start something and not finish it in your life. The enemy may make you feel that it is your fault for being single or for relationships ending, but I am here to tell you that choosing to put God first means that your relationships from start to finish are in God’s hands. He knows who He has chosen for you, and when the right one comes along, it will be worth the wait!
Until then, Be you! Stay hidden and under God’s cloak of protection. It’s okay to be the person with the awkward laugh or the person who smiles from ear to ear at every little thing. Be the girl or guy that loves nature or gets excited over the slightest thing. Don’t allow this dark world to darken your faith and your identity. Who you are in Christ means something because your identity is matched to your future outcomes.
God wants to introduce you to someone that He views as amazing and loving, and kind. He wants you to meet the version of you that will be the one He chooses to pair up with your godly spouse in due time.
In your appointed season, you will be unveiled for all the world to see